After being challenged by my mentor to spend an ENTIRE hour and half doing something just for myself that I enjoyed…I was stumped!
Something I enjoyed? Something just for me?
As of lately, my idea of fun included laying in bed alone and taking a nap! Restoring for my energy… definitely. Fun? I wasn’t convinced.
This simple homework assignment changed the trajectory of my life. I decided to drastically increase my fun quotient!
But sadly, I did not know what truly gave me pleasure anymore! While I was truly grateful for the perks of being able to work for myself around the schedule of my family, I somehow lost focus of the bigger picture and spent day after day enthralled in the “drudgery” of being an entrepreneur and the “drudgery” of being a stay-at-home mom.
I believe that the most important work I will ever do are in the walls of my home. So when I decided to become a Mompreneur, my objective had always been to become a profitable entrepreneur WITHOUT having to sacrifice any family time.
I was convinced that I had done everything “right.”
I established clear “work hours” and “Mommy hours” but faced with all the demands of my growing business, I was perpetually distracted. I would often return to my family, experiencing them not as a source of joy, but as one more demand already in my over scheduled life. I was beyond overwhelmed, and subsequently short-tempered with my family.
I believed that being a Mompreneur meant I was putting the needs of my family first. But after three years, I began to realize that I had fallen back into the rat-race trying to build my business. My days recycled themselves and a pattern began to form. A pattern I wanted to change!
I reevaluated my priorities and scrutinized my days and I discovered what was missing was the fun, pleasure and excitement in my day to day life!
I decided to open myself up to experiencing an abundance of fun! And so my journey began!
- I Gave Myself Permission…
The waiting was over! I didn’t want to wait to have fun, until my one day off. I didn’t want to wait to have fun, until summer vacation. I didn’t want to wait to have fun, until I could retire.
My mother was a hard-working woman! She taught me the value of an excellent work ethic, but she also taught me how to settle. She worked faithfully in the same job for over 30 years. Over the years we talked about her vision for retirement. She wanted to spend her days laying on hammocks on the beaches of the world.
Sadly, she passed two weeks before she retired.
Losing my mom last year gave me a new perspective. The ultimate measure of life (in this realm), is not how much time we have but how we choose to invest our energy with the time we have. And at the end of our lives what we will value the most is what we did with our families and the memories we created.
We always think we have time.” – Buddha
I gave myself permission to stop waiting to experience joy and fun!
2. I Scheduled a Daily Moment for Pleasure…
How frequently are you experiencing a deep sense of joy and satisfaction? How many hours each week do you experience activities just for pleasure?
Engaging in activities, where pleasure is its own reward (not love, money, or recognition), results in us perform at our best when we feel positive and pleasant emotions such as enjoyment, challenge, adventure and opportunity.
In my pursuit of pleasure, I decided to make activities that cultivate positive emotions priority and I implemented a daily moment of pleasure into my schedule!
Whether I indulged in a hot bath, orchestrated a dance off with my kids, watched the sunset, or guiltlessly devour a piece of cake, I chose to give myself one moment of unadulterated pleasure every day!
3. I Added Joy to THE Process…
Building a business means discipline and consistency, so if I have to repeat the same process day in and day out, I want it to be a process I enjoy doing.
Travel enriches and expands my heart and soul.” – Just A. Mompreneur
Making sales presentations, tracking marketing efforts, and preparing P&L statements didn’t scream fun! But NECESSARY! So, I decided to put my experience as an entrepreneur, years of business management and my addiction to planet porn (browsing the internet through photos of beautiful travel destinations) to good use by pursuing a business in travel. I figured, if I have to make sales presentations anyways, why not inspire and encourage others to have more fun, create more memories, and be a participator NOT just a spectator in their life.
I am excited about my new adventure as a travel agent!
As a Mompreneur, I still work hard…but now, I play even harder!
Candace Jenkins-Espinet in Pursuit of Pleasure!